"This life is like a swimming pool. You dive into the water, but you can't see how deep it is" - Dennis Rodman
J.K. Rowling
How much truth is Rodman’s quote cannot be measured, but
dependence on one’s risks. Or perhaps no risks at all, but a forced-on
experience brought on by others – or no one at all. What am I getting at? Life
is deep, dark, unknown, and hard. Everyone’s experience is unique and no one knows
why we are “swimming” in this “pool of
life”. ‘The Neighbourhood’ sings, “They teach me how to swim, then they throw
me in the deep-end.”
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When
I was about five or six, I almost drowned to my death. [If I only known that 9
years down the road I would become a lifeguard!] I remember it clearly. I think
most people who have near-death situations don’t ever forget the feeling. I
could write detail after detail what I did and what I saw and what I heard, but
I don’t think there’s ever words that could ever make you feel what I felt. Just
like other people could never replicate their experience to me. It’s un-understandable.
But I’ll try.
No one pushed me. No one told me to do what I did. I jumped
myself.
In the deep waters, as if I understood how to swim despite
my age, past experience(s), or knowledge. And I plummeted to the bottom. I
remember the moment I felt the bottom on my little feet. It truly scared me
just how deep down I was. The pressures from the water overwhelmed my senses
and all the emotions that had build up while I was on my way down had
completely disappeared. Gone. I felt nothing but yet, chaos was happening
around me. I wouldn’t know until later, but the whole time this was happening
my mother, especially, was screaming my name claiming I was dead – or about to
be. I would try to jump up from the bottom to only reach the surface for points
of a second, not enough time to expand a new set of lungs. I was not ready for
the consequences. After repeating this for God only knows, I gave up. I became
weak, my sense had gone to illusions and I seen nothing but deep, dark, blue
water. And I was okay with it. I could no longer breath as I could feel water
enter my body, taking over my actions. It felt completely natural so I just let
it happen; too weak to fight back. I remember it clearly.
It was at that exact moment, I had felt something. It seemed
like decades before I had any kind of senses so this actually felt painful.
Someone was helping me, grabbing my shoulder pulling me up to the surface. I
was so tired, so exhausted, I didn’t want to deal with any more pain so I
resisted the tug of assistance. I also remember thinking that I didn’t want to
face anyone – even at seven, I knew humiliation was awaiting me. I almost
drowned. And I have the lifeguard to thank for saving me, even if I didn’t want
it at the time. But I survived.
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I guess, in a round about way, I have seen life like pool
you’ve never been in before. An ocean. Where the depths are unknown. When ‘The
Neighbourhood’ sings “they teach you how to swim, then they throw you in the
deepend,” I interpret this as in our youth and ever as we grow older, we always
are learning. We are constantly adapting to change, learning more about ourselves
and our choices. In turn, these things also influence our actions and,
essentially, our skill level. “Then they throw you in the deep-end,” is about
the risks we always have to take in life. There’s always new opportunities, new exploration - whether people choose them or not, in life. This is scary. Jumping in
water, plummeting to the bottom not knowing where the end is, is a huuuuge risk
we are forced to take. Some of us don’t make it to the surface. We get lost and
forget all aspects of survival. We think we have things in control – but the
truth is, water is uncontrollable. Life is uncontrollable. Things happen.
Emotions take over. Any factor can alter our actions, our course, our ideology.
We often lose hope along the way, and like me, believe in the lie that being at
the bottom is natural and that is my place to stay – the belief that I belonged
there. I deserved it. I earned it. I was the one who jumped, remembered? No one pushed me. I did this all myself.
I am thankful that someone saved me though. Being at the
bottom sucks, and even though it feels comfortable after awhile, you are
screaming for help somewhere on the inside. You don’t want help from others (I
resisted assistance) but at the same time, this is not your time to go to the
bottom yet. People are yelling at you from the surface – because they care,
they need you, and because you matter. Whether you believe it or not, you mean
something in this thing called “life” and there’s a reason you’re here on
earth. Because it’s a learning curve, it’s an enormous struggle to have, but in
the end it makes us stronger. Swimming. Makes. Us. Stronger. Don’t be a sinker anymore. Sinking involves lying to yourself, to others, and it hurts. It hurts immensely.
‘Lifeguards’ can not always be there for you, they may not see the signs of
your struggles, or they could be simply too exhausted to try to help another
soul find strength in life.
Perhaps it was a coincidence that I felt a notion that I
should get my lifeguard courses when I turned fourteen/fifteen. I was ready to
learn how to swim in the water of life – ready to take on challenges and the
risks that come from jumping in unknown depths of waters. I was getting tired
of being at the bottom. Even at a young age. People may laugh, or judge, but I
can truly say I can tell you all about being at the bottom. I felt everything
about it. And I don’t want to go back. I'm no longer going to let the water get the best of me; I'm going to get the best of the water.
So. All you struggling out there….
Just keep on
swimming. Float as long as you can. You’re worth it. Take risks, accept change, and don't be afraid of help along the way. You're worth it.
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